Self-Esteem Counseling

Do you compare yourself to others? Or struggle with feelings of worthlessness? 

Living with low self-esteem can be crippling and prevent you from living your best life. If you struggle with self-esteem, I can help you find the confidence you need to thrive. I provide a safe space for you to explore your identity, barriers, and behaviors. As a therapist, my role is to walk alongside with you and give you a safe and nonjudgemental space. I hope that in my office, you will learn to find your voice, and be the best version of yourself possible.

How I can Help

Dealing with Your Inner Critic

Struggling with a strong inner critic can be debilitating and paralyzing. It can feel like nothing you do is ever good enough. I help clients through this be uncovering the root causes of their inner critic by identifying childhood messages. I also give clients the safe space to confront their inner critic and take back control of their lives.

Discovering Strengths and Values

I believe that everyone person has strengths and values; sometimes, we can't recognize them because of our own negative beliefs. I help clients identify strengths and cultivate values by reframing negative beliefs about ourselves and our world in a way that is positive and helpful.

Developing Self-Compassion

Developing self-esteem requires developing a compassionate and kind voice to replace your older critical one. I help client's discover their inner compassionate voice. With that, you can learn to calm your anxiety, forgive yourself with mistakes, and find ways to overcome perfectionism.

Installing Healthy Boundaries

Do you find it hard to say no to others? Does your life sometimes feel unmanageable? I help clients develop healthy boundaries in their personal lives to ensure that the most important person (aka. YOU) are taken care of. If this is difficult, I can help you by identifying barriers, to strategies to have boundaries that feel right to you and that lead to a fulfilling life.

Overcoming Unwanted Habits

Adults who struggle with unwanted habits or addictions come in with feelings of shame or guilt. I help clients by offering a safe and nonjudgemental space to face their habits while providing tools and strategies to manage their behavior. Areas of specialty include pornography usage, excessive gaming, and sex addiction.

Building Meaningful and Healthy Relationships

One-sided friendships and toxic relationships can erode our self-esteem and sense of worth. If you struggle with this, I can help you. Learning to build healthy relationships requires knowing what healthy and acceptable behavior in relationships is. It is also essential to understand how to find healthy people in your life who can help you thrive and be yourself. Most importantly, I help my clients look at the reasons why these relationships exist in the first place.


39180 Liberty St, Suite 220-3, Fremont, CA, 94538

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Alexander Ly

Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist 113567

Registered Associate Professional Clinical Counselor 6447

Employed by Center for Psychotherapy, Creativity, and Spirituality

Supervised by Israel Perla LMFT43965