Therapy for high-achieving adults who look like they’ve got it together — but underneath are anxious, burned out, and tired of holding it all in.
Unlearn survival rules and rebuild emotional skills for boundaries, self-trust, and
real connection.
Ready to stop performing and finally show up for yourself?
Specialties
Trauma Therapy: helping you heal old wounds and step out of survival mode
Anxiety Therapy: calming your body and mind so life stops feeling overwhelming
Therapy for Asian Americans:
navigating cultural and family expectations with someone who actually gets it
Brainspotting Therapy: using powerful brain-body techniques to process what words can’t touch
IFS Therapy (Internal Family Systems): working with your inner parts to quiet the self-criticism and build real confidence
You Look Like You’ve Got It Together — But Inside, You’re Tired of Surviving
People around you are starting to notice something’s off.
Your partner says you shut down or avoid conflict
A friend tells you you’re way too hard on yourself
Someone’s probably told you to try therapy
And you’ve noticed it too — the way you keep the peace until it explodes, work twice as hard and still feel behind, show up to family gatherings out of guilt even though they leave you drained.
You look fine on the outside — but inside, you’re anxious, exhausted, and constantly second-guessing yourself.
You’re tired of triple-checking every email before you hit send. You’re tired of holding it together during the workday, only to fall apart in the car ride home. You’re tired of pretending you’re fine when you're not — even with the people closest to you.
You’ve started to wonder: Is this just how it is? Or is there something deeper going on?
Here’s the truth:
You’re in survival mode — and maybe you’ve been in it for so long that it just feels normal now.
You’re bracing for the next thing to go wrong. You’re managing everything and everyone while quietly burning out. You’ve learned to keep the peace, stay productive, and not ask for too much. That’s survival mode — and it’s running the show.
You’ve already tried the usual fixes — overthinking less, staying busy, distracting yourself, venting to friends, or diving into self-help. But nothing sticks.
That’s because those things manage the symptoms — not the root.
Therapy is different. It’s not about pushing through — it’s about slowing down, getting curious, and shifting the deeper patterns that keep you stuck. That’s how real change happens. And that’s where I can help.
Hey, I’m Alex
Trauma & Anxiety Therapist in the Bay Area
The folks I work with are the ones who always seem fine. You know — the reliable ones. The responsible ones. The ones who hold everything together at work and home while quietly falling apart inside.
They’re smart, driven, and capable — but also anxious, exhausted, and carrying way more than anyone realizes. They're managing relationships, careers, and high expectations from everyone around them. They've spent years putting others first, pushing through, and staying quiet to keep the peace.
If that’s you? I see you.
I’m Alex — a second-gen Chinese American and Bay Area native. I work with people like you because I’ve lived versions of this story too. In therapy with me, you don’t have to keep performing. You get to be a full human — messy, brilliant, burnt out — and still worthy of care. I show up real — warm, direct, sometimes challenging — and together we’ll figure out how to stop surviving and start living again.
Ready to Take the Next Step?
You don’t have to keep pushing through alone. The patterns won’t magically change — but with support, they can.
Imagine finishing work and actually feeling relaxed enough to enjoy dinner with your partner instead of zoning out. Imagine visiting your parents without that knot of dread in your stomach, or saying no to a demand without hours of guilt afterwards. Imagine waking up on a Saturday and feeling excited to spend the day however you choose — without the constant buzz of anxiety in the background. That’s what’s possible here.
Here’s what clients often tell me after working together:
“I stopped apologizing for everything and actually started asking for what I need — without guilt.”
“I visit my parents and don’t completely shut down. I can hold boundaries and still feel like myself.”
“I don’t wake up dreading the day anymore. I actually feel like I have room to breathe.”
These aren’t quick fixes.
But they’re real, lasting shifts that happen when you stop surviving and start doing the deeper work.
Over time, therapy can help you:
Speak up without spiraling into guilt or self-doubt
Actually enjoy time with your family without replaying old roles
Set boundaries that hold — even when people push back
Feel confident in your decisions instead of second-guessing everything
Stop over-functioning and start feeling like your life belongs to you