IFS Therapist in California
I help self-critical, overwhelmed, and stuck adults finally feel more at peace by using IFS therapy to untangle messy feelings.
Ever feel like you're constantly at war with yourself?
Like part of you wants to rest, but another part screams, "Don't you dare slow down." Or one part wants to speak up, but another says, "Nope, keep the peace."
You’re just tired of fighting yourself all the time. It’s that feeling of being pulled in a dozen directions at once.
Of being exhausted but unable to relax. Of wanting connection but shutting down to stay safe. Of doing everything "right" but still feeling like something's off.
And maybe you’ve said things like... "I'm tired of holding it all together." "I don’t know why I feel this way." "Why do I keep sabotaging myself?"
The truth?
These are patterns you picked up along the way — to survive, to cope, to keep the peace. But now, they’re running the show, and they’re wearing you down. You don’t need to push harder. You need space to listen to what’s really going on inside.
Hey, I'm Alex an Internal Family Systems Therapist
I’m an IFS therapist working with folks all across California. Most of my clients are high-functioning, driven adults who look like they’re doing fine from the outside—but inside, they feel anxious, disconnected, or just plain stuck.
In our work together, we don’t just talk about your struggles — we get to know the parts of you that are behind them. Like the overachiever that never lets you rest. The critic that never shuts up. The avoidant part that goes quiet during conflict. I help you build real relationships with those parts so they’re not running the show in secret anymore.
I’ve helped clients finally understand why they keep repeating the same patterns — overworking, avoiding hard conversations, shutting down emotionally — and shift them at the root. Instead of just "coping better," they start to feel more like themselves again.
Start Feeling Like Yourself Again
You’re tired of holding it together and ready for something to change.
Here’s what that change can start to look like:
You stop reacting on autopilot and start responding with intention.
You begin saying no without the guilt spiral.
That voice in your head that always says, "You're not good enough"? It gets a lot quieter.
You can sit with your emotions without shutting down or numbing out.
You feel more like yourself again — present, grounded, connected
When your inner world starts to calm down, everything else shifts. Your relationships. Your boundaries. Your sense of self. You stop performing and start actually living.
Let’s get you there.
So, What Is IFS, Anyway?
IFS stands for Internal Family Systems.
And no, it’s not about your actual family (though sometimes your family dynamics show up).
It’s about the "family" of parts inside you — the overachiever, the perfectionist, the part that shuts down, the one that panics, and the one that feels like it's never enough. Each part is trying to protect you in its own way — even if it doesn’t always make sense. That inner critic? It's trying to push you to succeed. The avoidant part? It’s trying to keep you from getting hurt. The part that’s always tired? It’s begging for a break.
In IFS, we slow down and get curious about these parts instead of judging them.
You’ll learn to:
Notice when a part is showing up and take a step back from it
Understand where it came from and what it’s trying to do for you
Build trust with that part so it doesn’t have to act out
Lead from your core Self — the grounded, calm version of you who can care for all parts without getting hijacked by them
Most importantly you learn to manage and ultimately HEAL your parts so they stop taking over your life in destructive ways
Instead of constantly reacting, shutting down, or spiraling in shame, you’ll start to respond with clarity and compassion. Clients often say things like, “I finally feel like I know what’s going on inside,” or “I don’t hate that part of me anymore.”
And here’s what that shift looks like out in the real world: they stop replaying old fights with their partner. They speak up at work instead of staying quiet and resentful. They say no without spiraling in guilt. They stop freezing when conflict hits and instead stay present and grounded.
That shift — from confusion to understanding, from chaos to internal leadership — changes everything.
What IFS Therapy Helps With
IFS is especially helpful when you feel stuck in painful patterns — even if you’ve already tried therapy, selfhelp, or just pushing through.
It’s for you if:
You’re constantly second-guessing yourself and can’t trust your own decisions
You feel torn — like one part of you wants connection, but another shuts down to stay safe
You go numb or freeze in conflict, then later beat yourself up about it
Your inner critic won’t let up, no matter how much you achieve
You keep repeating the same relationship dynamics and don’t know why
You say yes when you mean no, then feel resentment or burnout build up
You feel like you’re never good enough — no matter how hard you try
You’re tired of being stuck in anxiety, overthinking, shame, or guilt
IFS helps you get to the root of these struggles by working with the parts of you that are scared, overwhelmed, or trying to protect you in the only ways they know how.
When those parts feel seen and supported, everything changes:
Anxiety softens
Emotional shutdown becomes grounded presence
People-pleasing turns into clear, kind boundaries
Self-doubt gives way to inner clarity
If you see yourself in any of this — IFS might be exactly what you’ve been needing.
What IFS Therapy Could Change for You
You don’t have to live ruled by guilt, shame, or that voice that constantly tells you you’re not enough. I’ve seen clients go from emotionally shut down to fully present — from constantly overthinking to finally trusting themselves.
Good IFS Therapy work helps you feel calm, confident, and clear. It reconnects you with who you are beneath the noise. It gives you tools to stay grounded even when life gets hard — and it helps you stop f ighting yourself so you can start living more fully.