Therapy for Men
I help men get out of their heads and into what they’re actually feeling. We slow down, cut through the noise, and do the real work that helps you get out of survival mode.
From the outside, you try to look solid — responsible, capable, holding everything together. At work, you try to get things done. At home, you try to be the best.
But inside, it’s a different story.
You’re tired. Not just physically — emotionally.
You snap more often or withdraw completely. Nights are restless because your brain won’t stop. Something feels wrong, but you can’t name it or fix it.
You’ve spent most of your life avoiding your own needs. You keep the peace, hold things together, bury your emotions because that’s what feels safer.
You’ve lost touch with your voice. You avoid conflict, shrink back when things get tense, and keep the discomfort to yourself.
You can't hold it together anymore. Your partner’s been complaining you are not assertive enough. You’re sick of the same arguments, the guilt, the distance. You’re tired of pretending everything’s fine when it’s not. Or you just hit that moment where you realize — you can’t keep doing this alone.
You’ve been in survival mode for so long that it’s started to feel normal. Always bracing for the next problem, trying to stay one step ahead, keeping your emotions on lockdown so nothing falls apart. It works — until it doesn’t. That constant vigilance, the pressure to perform, the inability to rest — it wears you down.
Meet Alex
A Therapist Who Gets Men
I work with men who are done pretending they’re fine. Over the years, I’ve worked with men from all walks of life — engineers, teachers, fathers, sons — and I understand how much pressure men live with — the constant expectation to perform, protect, and keep it together, even when you’re falling apart inside. I’ve seen how easy it is to lose yourself in that grind, how hard it is to talk about what’s really going on, and how uncomfortable it can be to admit you need help.
In my therapy practice, I help men get to the root of what’s keeping them stuck — the beliefs, fears, and old habits that quietly run the show. We practice new skills right in the room: how to communicate, set boundaries, and stay present when things get tense. I create a space where you can be honest without judgment, where you can actually try something different and start to grow. I help men build self-awareness, confidence, and connection without stripping away their strength.
Why Therapy Feels Different Here — and Why It’s Not Coaching
Therapy with me isn’t about talking endlessly or chasing motivation like coaching often does.
It’s about creating change that sticks.
Traditional therapy can feel awkward for men — being told to “talk about your feelings” when you’re not even sure how.
You don’t have to come in with the right words.
We’ll make sense of what’s happening in real time — in your body, your thoughts, and your relationships —so you can respond instead of react.
Coaching focuses on goals. Therapy focuses on why you keep getting stuck before you even reach them.
If you’ve tried self-help, podcasts, or quick fixes and nothing’s changed, this is where we dig deeper. We get to the root of it so you can stop repeating the same patterns.
I’m a licensed therapist trained to work with emotional patterns, trauma, and lasting growth. No scripts. No quick fixes. Just real, grounded work that helps you grow into the man you want to be.
You don’t have to keep struggling.
Let’s start here:
Heres what happens when you do therapy:
You'll stop bottling things up until you explode
You'll start to understand what you’re feeling and why it shows up
You'll show up better in your relationships — more present, less reactive
You'll feel grounded and clear instead of tense and checked out
You'll build confidence that comes from who you are, not what you achieve
Change takes effort, but it’s possible — and worth it.
When men like you commit to this work, life starts to open up again.
You don’t have to do it alone. Therapy gives you a space to work through the hard stuff without judgment — to build something solid, steady, and real.
If you’re ready to take that first step, let’s talk.
Specializations — What We Can Work On Together
Men come to therapy for different reasons, but a few patterns show up again and again. Here’s what we often work through together:
Avoidance and emotional shutdown
Learning to stop running from discomfort and stay present when things get hard.
Relationship issues
Breaking cycles of distance, conflict, and silence by learning how to communicate honestly and clearly.
Work burnout and pressure
Redefining success, setting boundaries, and finding balance so work doesn’t consume your life.
Cultural identity and expectations
Especially for Asian American men navigating family obligations and the pressure to succeed without losing yourself.
Pornography and sex addiction
Understanding the underlying stress, shame, or loneliness driving it and creating healthier ways to cope.
Assertiveness and boundaries
Building confidence to speak up, set limits, and stand your ground without guilt.
You don’t have to figure everything out before starting. We’ll unpack what’s in the way and help you move forward in a way that lasts.
Let’s Talk
Good therapy can change everything. You start feeling lighter. You stop walking on eggshells at home. You feel confident setting boundaries and calm handling conflict. You show up in your relationships as the version of yourself you’ve been trying to be for years.
This is your chance to start that process. No pressure, no jargon — just a real conversation about what’s going on and what could help.